I was out for my Sunday Shopping after a long long time. The Toddler and
me settled ourselves down in CCD (Shopper's Stop) and were enjoying
our
drinks. The Toddler starting interacting with another girl her age who
was sitting with her family next to our table. These two started playing
quietly. Not so quietly, you could hear them chat and giggle, but they
were behaving very well. All of a sudden our heads turned in one
direction when we heard a kid shout '
Nahinnnnn' on top of his voice.
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This was the scene minus the folded hands. |
Its then we realized there was a couple with their 4 year old kid
sitting on a table opposite to ours. The mom was trying to convince the
kid that he should finish his food.
Mom: "
Isse khel dekh doggie, yeh car dekh, tujhe kuch aur chahiye?"
(Son, play with the dog, look at the car, you need something else?)
Son:
Haan, Dog House... (Why will a 4+ year old play with a dog house deserves another post :-P)
Mom gets up and brings the dog house, but sonny boy didn't budge. All I could hear was '
Nahin, Nahin, Nahin'.
What I saw next made me furious. The mother tried to feed her son and
the boy snatched the spoon along with the food and threw it on the
floor. All the mommy said was "
Nahin beta, aisa karne se bhagwan ji
naraaz ho jayegen." (No son, God will get angry if you behave like
this)... WHAT???
I know a 4 year old very closely (my nephew and his friends). They're
mischievous but no misbehaved. So please do not tell me all 4 year olds
behave like this.
I looked at the 2 girls playing and chatting without much chaos... And I
thanked my stars and smiled at the mom of the other 2 year old who had
the same expressions as me when the entire episode was going on.
Some
take-aways from the day:
-
I'm not a perfect parent by I know one thing for sure - Parenting is
about maintaining the the perfect balance. If you are over strict and do
not give in to any demand of the child it’s not going to benefit the
child… if you are raising them as ‘precious’ gems, like seen in the
post above, you won’t be fair to your children either. Read a similar
post of Parentous Parenting Case Study
- Parents/guardians are to be blamed to a large extent in most of the
cases. These kids become manner-less, stubborn, rude and bossy.
- CCD attracts a lot of parents and children... So its not just the college going crowd which is a regular at CCD :-P